When I got pregnant with Miles, like most people in their first pregnancy, I read as much as I possibly could about everything. With this pregnancy, and knowing somewhat what to expect, I've been more interested in how pregnancies differ and compare.
Brad, while incredibly invested and excited about this pregnancy, can't comprehend why anyone would find this information helpful, entertaining and/or interesting in the least. :) I find posts about pregnancy helpful, because it makes me feel more normal--that I'm not the only person to ever experience this weird craving or annoying back pain. So, that's why I'm posting.
I'm currently 22 weeks and due March 8. I found out around the second week of July--and it was a complete surprise. It wasn't exactly the best timing--I had just quit my full time job, was getting adjusted to being home with Miles, and had just signed on to be not only Art Director on Kid President's Guide to Being Awesome, but also Project Manager. I couldn't be pregnant. I had just felt like I was figuring out this being-a-mom thing with Miles and kinda knew what I was doing and was looking forward to simplifying our lives, not complicating them. I took a test and it showed a positive line almost immediately. I started trying to figure out how I was going to tell Brad, and I just knew I needed to tell him right away. So I did, and he kinda went weak and the knees with this overwhelming/life-changing/what-are-we-going-to-do information. We starting counting the months to figure out around when I would be due: almost exactly a month after the book comes out. Wow, definitely not timing we would have planned, but they will be 2 years and 3 months apart, which seems to be a pretty good amount of space between kids. One of our best friend's kids is that exact amount older than Miles and he adores her! And honestly, if we had made the decision when we were ready, we probably would have ended up waiting too long because there's never a perfect time to have a baby. :)
Telling our Families
We decided to tell our families after our first appointment around 9 weeks, so we invited everyone over to watch the finale of Kid President: Declaration of Awesome. Brad's parents couldn't come that night, but my parents and all four of my siblings were all there, with no clue the real reason we invited everyone over. After the episode, Brad started telling them about all of the KP projects we were scheduling over the next year, and just threw in that we were having a baby in March. They were all shocked--it took a second for what he had just said to sink in, and then everyone got really excited. Brad's parents and brother came over for lunch the next day and we told them in the same way. They were equally surprised and excited!
I gained 39 lbs with Miles, and I honestly couldn't tell you how many I have gained this pregnancy. I only weigh myself at apps and I think I've gained around 20 lbs so far? Maybe 25? After I had Miles, I actually lost about 10 extra pounds beyond what I gained during my pregnancy from breastfeeding, but then I steadily gained the weight back to be the exact same starting weight I was with him. With this baby, just like with Miles, I immediately started gaining weight, but the distribution was a lot different. With Miles, I was all belly and carried him really low--I had to start doing the rubber band trick with my jeans pretty early, but with #2, I can actually still wear some of my lower cut jeans at 23 weeks! I pulled out all of my old maternity clothes and the dresses still fit fine, but the jeans and pants were huge--I had to buy a few new pairs because the old ones won't stay up! (While that boosts my self-esteem, it's still annoying.)
With Miles, my first symptom was having to pee all. the. time. (TMI?) Starting at 6 weeks pregnant, I would wake up 2-3 times in the middle of the night just to use the bathroom. That continued throughout out the entire pregnancy--no sleep no matter what I did. With this pregnancy, I had a few weeks of constant waking in the first trimester, but for the most part I've been able to sleep through the night, which is a HUGE blessing!
One of the biggest things I remember from being pregnant with Miles is how heightened my sense of smell was--it's been strongest for me in the first trimester both times. In my first pregnancy, it was spring and I could smell honeysuckle (one of my favorite smells ever) almost an acre away! But in the same vein, anything not sweet-smelling made me instantly feel sick. With #2, I feel like I've missed out on all of the good smells and I've only smelt the bad ones. I've vomited a few times after changing Miles' diapers, washing out milk in forgotten sippy cups and just getting a quick whiff of the garbage as I'm taking it out. Ugh.
With Miles, "morning" (all-day) sickness kicked in right at 8 weeks and lasted until the day I hit 13 weeks. I tried all sorts of remedies but nothing really seemed to help. I could usually keep it at bay if I ate every couple of hours, but would still usually get sick first thing in the morning after waking up with an empty stomach. With #2, the sickness kicked in around 6 weeks and has only gotten a little better. I tried a lot of the remedies that didn't work with #1 and they've been surprisingly successful with this pregnancy–the biggest one being the combo of vitamin B6 and Unisom. I take those two pills every night before I go to bed and I wake up feeling great. If I forget to take it, I end up regretting it and feeling sick all day. Another thing that has been helpful is Phenergan gel (which is available by prescription). It's basically a cream in a tiny tube that you can squeeze on your wrists whenever you feel sick and it works almost immediately. It's also been really helpful for motion sickness for me. We had a really turbulent and long flight to LA a few weeks ago and I ended up using it twice on the flight (you can apply it every 3 hrs.)
With both pregnancies, my immune system has been completely wrecked. I'm the kind of person that gets sick maybe twice a year at most, but when I'm pregnant, everything just seems to linger and will not go away. I got really sick around 14 weeks--just a really bad cold.. After I'd had it for a week and had completely lost my voice from coughing, I finally went to the doctor and got a prescription for antibiotics and Tylenol with codeine. On Sunday morning I still felt bad so I decided to stay home from church, and I started throwing up and couldn't keep anything down all day (I think it was side effects from the prescriptions). Late that night I was finally able to keep a swallow of water down, but it was still another week before I felt back to normal.
Another thing I really dealt with this pregnancy in the first trimester that I didn't before is exhaustion. I don't know if it seemed worse because I have a toddler to look after now, but for the whole month of July and part of August, I was exhausted all the time. I could barely get out of bed or get off the couch sometimes, and I was so grateful I didn't have to leave the house to go to work.
With Miles I would forget a lot of times that I was pregnant, but this one, I feel like I've had a harder time because it has definitely slowed me down already--I feel like I'm more tired, wear out more quickly and get out of breath easily. I do tend to forget I'm pregnant when choosing what to eat–I've been way more lax in following the food rules for pregnancy. I do well for the most part, but there's been times I need to eat and the only option is cold deli meat, so I choose food.
I feel like I've dealt with weird pains a lot sooner with this pregnancy. I don't feel like those really kicked in until late 2nd or the the 3rd trimester with Miles, but I've had horrible restless legs and lots of soreness in my feet. I've also dealt with a ton of round ligament pain, which I don't remember having with Miles. I started using Young Living essential oils earlier this year and those have been amazing for pain. I was mostly using Peppermint and Pan-Away, but recently started using Copaiba on my feet with they hurt and it is amazing! It works within seconds and also takes the swelling down pretty quickly!
With both pregnancies, I never really felt like I had strong cravings other than salty items--specifically salt and vinegar kettle-cooked chips (I guess it's similar to the whole pregnant people like pickles thing?) I feel like I have more tiny cravings--like, I'll want to eat the same exact thing every day for breakfast for a week, and I've also craved fast food a lot this time as well as last time (also connected to the salty thing–burgers and fries mostly.)
With my first pregnancy, I was constantly reading. Books, articles, reviews on products, researching as much as I could and learning as much as I could soak up. This time...not so much. I have an app on my phone that shows what size the baby is, but I check it maybe every three weeks or so, when I remember. I only know what week I am because of taking weekly photos and I put reminders in my phone. :)
With Miles, I researched natural births, was reading and listening through the HypnoBabies course, reading Bradley method books, and was focusing on having as natural of a birth as I could in a hospital. We found out around 32 weeks that he would be big and despite all of my planning, I ended up having to have a scheduled c-section with him. (You can read his birth story imported from my old blog–part 1 here and part 2 here.)
It was the right decision for Miles' birth, but there was no medical reason or complications connected to why he was big so my doctors said it could be a fluke that he was big. It could also be that I just birth big babies. My doctor did a great job with my c-section and told me I'm a good candidate for a VBAC if I want to go that route. I would like to try for a VBAC, if possible, just to have that experience (I never once felt a contraction with Miles and my water never broke), but I'm not completely decided yet–I'm waiting to see how this baby measures. At my fetal assessment at 21 weeks, she was measuring normally, but the ultrasound tech said that all babies measure the same at this point, and 32 weeks is the earliest they can really start to predict size because that's when they've already started to put on weight. Honestly, there's a lot that is great about having a scheduled c-section (low stress, relaxed up until delivery and I had a very quick recovery), so I will be okay if we end up having to go that route again.
Gender and Name
With Miles, I had a feeling he was a girl from the beginning. No idea why, I just felt like it was. When we had a gender ultrasound done at 17 weeks, Brad and I were both shocked when the ultrasound showed he was a boy, and I think it took us a couple weeks to really get used to the idea. After that and especially now I can't imagine him being anything else! He is amazing and I wouldn't trade him for anything! We both really wanted to have at least one of each gender, so we were hoping #2 would be a girl. I again, felt like it was this time, but more so because this pregnancy felt so different in so many ways, and was matching up to lots of the old wives' tales about having a girl. :) We did a gender ultrasound at 17 weeks and confirmed she was, indeed, a girl!
With Miles we narrowed his name down a few months before he was born, but we kept going back and forth between naming him Miles Henry or Henry Miles. We knew we wanted to call him by his first name (whichever we chose), and we eventually landed on Miles, which has fit him perfectly (especially considering how much traveling we do--we never could have predicted that!) With baby girl, we went through all of the girl names we liked when I was pregnant with Miles but we still just aren't sure. We want something friendly, and that goes with our last name without feeling too pretentious or uppity, so it'll probably be only 1-2 syllables. We like the idea of two kids with M names, but we also don't want to be stuck to that if we have a third kid and don't want to name them with an M. So, right now we have no idea! We waited until after Miles was born to announce his name because we wanted the option to change it if we met him and he didn't feel like a Miles, so we will probably wait until she is born to announce it for the same reason. If you have any suggestions, please leave a comment!
With Miles, we knew it had to be big, and Brad had been kicking around a song in his head so we made a video singing it. We kinda set the bar with that one so we felt like we had to do something big for this baby as well. Only, we had no ideas and no time to shoot it. We threw around a few ideas and nothing really felt right but then I came across Hello Apparel's I'm So Pregnant shirt and came up with the idea for the video we ended up shooting. We were happy with how it turned out so hopefully baby girl won't be disappointed she didn't get a song written about her. There's still plenty of time for that. ;)
This pregnancy has gone by way faster than my first. I think because I've know what to expect, and because we've also just been so busy with the book and other projects. I'm excited to have more time now to really be able to spend with Miles and Brad before she gets here. Brad is beyond excited and Miles seems to somewhat understand a baby is coming. We read lots of books about new babies and we pat my stomach but he's not really a talker so we're not completely sure how much he understands. Most of the time, when we ask where the baby is, he pats his own tummy! I think he's going to do fine, though.
Friends, thanks for making it this far (sorry for such a long post!) If you have more than one, how were your pregnancies different? Anybody deliver a big baby and then have smaller babies? Any advice for having two under 3?
And if you have any great girl name suggestions, please let us know!